3 Steps to Make Room in Your Life for Sobriety

3 Steps to Make Room in Your Life for Sobriety

If you are busy with many commitments, then it may seem overwhelming to make room in your life for sobriety. Responsibility at your work, family and community may take up every spare moment; while in rehab, recovering addicts had no choice but to let go of all the problems that kept them from focusing on getting sober. However, now that rehab has ended, you could quickly derail your recovery if you clutter your life with too many activities. You must carry out a sobriety plan, but staying clean is an intentional, daily choice, so keep letting go of activities that are unimportant, and then focus on living without drugs.

What Sobriety Looks Like

After weeks or months in rehab, you may think you know what true sobriety looks like, but you must live in recovery at home before you know what it takes for you to stay clean. The definition of sobriety is a simple one, but living in sobriety means returning to an original state of mind—having a body, mind and spirit that are free of an intoxicant. To achieve this level of healing, it takes a day-to-day, lifelong commitment to life without alcohol and the determination to stay balanced every day.

Sobriety is more than the physical act of being free from alcohol. Many alcoholics can go without drinking for several days, but they have yet to find true peace and happiness, because they still use the coping methods of an alcoholic, even though they have not drank for years. To be truly sober is to recognize negative thought patterns that lead to negative behaviors, and then to change them. Sobriety is both a way of thinking and a lifestyle.

Making Room for Sobriety

When someone enters alcohol rehab, she is free to focus on recovery. However, when treatment ends and she returns to real life, the work it takes to remain sober can seem overwhelming. It takes courage to make room in your life for sobriety, because you may have to let go of activities that you once enjoyed. You may have to end relationships you thought were important, but were really unhealthy. It definitely means understanding your recovery plan and sticking to it. Whatever your recovery plan looks like, the following three steps can make room in life for sobriety:

  • Follow your recovery plan – You developed your recovery plan with therapists and other rehab specialist, because they know your situation and individual needs well. During treatment, you interacted with your therapist on a daily basis, so the two of you came to conclusions together. Your therapist knows your history, how far you have come and the changes you must still make to lead a life free of alcohol. Trust the relationship you have built here, but make sure you understand the steps you must take and ask questions when necessary. You will continue to see your therapist on a daily basis, then weekly once your recovery solidifies. Your plan will also include spending time in a support group and eventually some type of community-service venture. Your plan will evolve as your sober lifestyle grows. The important thing is to follow it!
  • Keep margins in your calendar – When rehab ends, it may be difficult to pick up where you left off with your social schedule, but you need margins and time to carry out your sobriety plan. Margins give you time to breathe, to rediscover who you are and where you are going in this new life of recovery. Without margins, your stress level will rise and feed your desire to reach for a drink. On the other hand, margins allow you to attend extra support group meetings, to meet with your sobriety partner when necessary and to pick up the phone to talk with someone who understands your struggles. Along with keeping on track with therapy appointments and support group meetings, margins give you time to see your life as it can be, not as it was.
  • Take the lifelong approach – Making room in your life for sobriety is much more than keeping to a schedule of meetings and appointments, because this mindset will only last for the short term. If you act in this way, then you will disregard your sobriety plan and probably relapse. When you leave treatment, it is important to take the long view of recovery rather than to work a plan for a short-term fix. If you know that recovery requires a lifelong commitment, then you will know that tomorrow issues may seem difficult, but hope comes from the long-view. Keep short-term struggles in their proper place to increase the likelihood of recovery success.

With help, you can get and stay clean from addiction.

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